Each of us has an underlying core limiting belief which we adopt and seem to program into ourselves at a very young age. This belief stems from an initial thought, which is then fed by a number of different experiences which we perceive to PROVE this thought until it becomes a belief. Isn’t the brain an amazing thing!
This belief is not true, but boy can it feel true. And because it often rears its head during times of stress and drama, we refer to it as our Default Drama (or DD for short).
I identified and made friends with my DD back in 2013. I hold the core limiting belief that I am not worthy. Not worthy of love, success, attention, or any other gifts life brings. I KNOW consciously, this belief is not true – I have evidence to disprove it every day, but it is still there at an unconscious level, and it shows up in a variety of ways.
For me, I know my DD is running the show when I exhibit the following behaviours:
1. Sulking (I am not worthy of being listened to)
2. Sabotaging relationships (I am not worthy of being loved)
3. Seeking external validation (I am not worthy of significance)
4. Overwork and overwhelm (I am not worthy of my job)
5. Emotional reactions (I am not worthy)
The importance of knowing my behaviours when my DD comes to play, is just as important as knowing my DD itself. When I identify myself playing out any of the patterns above (and yes, in my gorgeously human way, sometimes this takes a little time!), I can get to the core of what is going on far quicker and make different choices, knowing that I am simply reacting to my DD rather than a real situation. It is like having DD glasses, viewing the world through my ‘I am not worthy glasses’ has me focussing on the proof of that belief.
How do I take those glasses off and have more clarity around any situation? I simply ask myself: How is my DD involved in my experience of this situation, and what does it want me to learn?
What DD patterns are you running right now? How might your core limiting belief be showing up and influencing your experience of life? Worth pondering, right?